How to talk to kids about online strangers
How to Talk to Kids About Online Strangers
A calm, parent-friendly guide to building confidence and safety online — without fear, spying, or panic.
Short answer: Talk early, stay curious, and agree simple rules together — like blocking or reporting — so your child knows exactly what to do if something feels wrong.
Why These Chats Matter
Kids meet people online through games, chats, and social platforms long before they truly understand risk. Talking openly and regularly builds trust, awareness, and makes it more likely they’ll come to you when something doesn’t feel right.
Start Simple, Stay Calm
- Use their world — ask about the games or apps they enjoy and who they chat with there.
- Keep your tone curious, not fearful or angry. Curiosity encourages honesty.
- Make it clear: if someone online makes them uncomfortable, it’s never their fault.
- Promise you won’t take devices away for honesty — the goal is to help, not punish.
Example Conversation Starter
“Sometimes people online pretend to be younger than they are. If someone you don’t know asks for photos or to talk privately, what could you do?”
Things to Explain Clearly
- Never share real names, school, or location in chats or profiles.
- Strangers can sound kind — you can’t always tell who’s behind a screen.
- It’s always okay to block, report, or leave a chat if something feels off.
- Real friends don’t ask for secrets, photos, or personal details.
Practical Steps Together
- Check privacy settings on their games and apps together.
- Show them how to block or report users safely, and how to take a screenshot for evidence.
- Review friend lists regularly — add only real-life friends.
- Keep devices in shared spaces; charge them overnight outside bedrooms.
Where to Get Help (UK & International)
- CEOP Safety Centre (UK) — report grooming or exploitation directly to police.
- NSPCC Online Safety (UK) — advice and parent helpline.
- NCMEC CyberTipline (US/Global) — report child exploitation internationally.
Download the Printable Guide
Download the Online Strangers Guide (PDF)
At Understanding Tech, we’re parents first and tech people second — translating safety settings and real-world advice into calm, practical steps for families.
