A simple one-page checklist to help you move an iPhone away from adult defaults and towards a safer, more age-appropriate setup using Apple’s built-in family tools.

• Family Sharing connected correctly
• Screen Time turned on and protected by passcode
• Downtime reviewed
• App Limits reviewed
• Content & Privacy Restrictions checked
• Ask to Buy switched on
• Communication and safety settings checked
• Test one app download to confirm Ask to Buy works

Before you start

Apple’s child safety tools work best when the iPhone is connected properly to your family setup, the child is using the right Apple account, and Screen Time is locked with a passcode the child does not know.

Apple says Family Sharing can be used to set up a new child device, create or connect a child account, and turn on parental controls such as Content & Privacy Restrictions, Communication Limits, Screen Distance and Communication Safety. Apple also says Screen Time lets parents view app and website activity, schedule downtime, set limits, block age-inappropriate content and more.

What Apple’s tools can do

Apple’s own support pages describe Screen Time as the main built-in system for monitoring and managing a child’s device use, including app and website activity, daily app limits, content restrictions and more [web:65][web:71]. Through Family Sharing, parents can set up or manage a child’s device, approve purchases with Ask to Buy, and connect a child’s account to parental controls.

Step-by-step setup

Apple says parents can use Family Sharing and Quick Start to set up a child’s device, create or connect the child account, and apply parental controls during the setup process. If the device is already in use, you can still go into Settings and apply the same controls afterwards.

1. Check the family setup. On the parent iPhone, go to Settings, tap your name, then tap Family. Apple says this is where you can set up a family group, invite members, or create an account for a child if needed.
2. Connect the child’s device properly. Apple says a child device can be set up with Family Sharing during Quick Start, or connected later through Settings and the on-screen prompts.
3. Turn on Screen Time. Apple says you can open Settings, go to Screen Time, choose the child under Family, and follow the setup steps to add age-appropriate settings and more.
4. Lock the settings. Apple says to use a Screen Time passcode so parental controls and Screen Time settings cannot be changed casually. Pick a code your child does not know and will not easily guess.
5. Set Downtime. Apple says Screen Time can schedule daily downtime, which is useful for sleep, school focus and family routines. A common starting point is overnight plus any schoolwork periods when the phone should be quiet.
6. Set App Limits. Apple says parents can set app limits through Screen Time, which is useful for high-friction categories such as games or social apps. This is often more helpful than trying to micromanage every minute manually.
7. Review Content & Privacy Restrictions. Apple says this area lets parents manage apps, content and settings, including blocking inappropriate content and preventing changes to privacy settings like Share My Location.
8. Turn on Ask to Buy. Apple says Family Sharing can be used to set up Ask to Buy so children need approval before downloads or purchases. This is one of the easiest ways to avoid surprise installs and spending.
9. Check communication controls. Apple includes Communication Limits and Communication Safety as part of its child safety features, which can help shape who a child communicates with and how the device responds to risky image sharing.
10. Test the setup. Apple recommends following the setup flow and using the tools to review how the device is being used over time. After you finish, try a few normal actions like downloading an app, opening the browser and checking a restricted setting to make sure the rules are behaving as expected.

The settings that matter most

What this guide does not do

Parental controls are useful, but they are not a complete substitute for conversation, trust and ongoing guidance. Apple’s tools can help manage access, time and settings, but they cannot do all the parenting for you.

Use this guide as a practical foundation. Then build on it with family rules, clear expectations and regular check-ins about apps, chats, habits and how the phone is being used in everyday life.

Simple monthly review

A short review every month or two is often enough to keep the phone aligned with your child’s age and your family rules. Apple’s guidance supports reviewing device activity, adjusting limits and gradually changing access as needed.